One can always include poems or quotations in their condolence messagesso as to make them all the more interesting as well as attention grabbing. If you fall short of words then nothing can be a better option than these. When it comes how to eng your sympathy message then the dilemma arises. You can extend a helping hand and offer a prayer for his soul to rest in peace. You can always provide a shoulder for the members so as to cope up on such a difficult time. You can offer help in doing various errands so that the pressure is decreased on the family members of the deceased. You can volunteer to take care of the garden or look after the pets or any other petty household chores that is not possible for them to do during such times. Always close the letter with a condolence phrase and sign your name at the end.